Dear Journal...

June 11, 2007

We had our first ultrasound today. We are having a GIRL! I am so excited! Boys are great, but I am so excited to have a daughter to dress up and to do her hair. So fun! The ultrasound technician said that she was measuring smaller than she should be, but our doctor told us not to be worried yet. They scheduled another ultrasound for next month to check her progress. Hooray for little girls!

July 11, 2007

We had our second ultrasound today. Turns out, our baby is growing…just slowly. She is still small, but I don’t know if that’s a problem or not.

July 16, 2007

I got a call from my doctor 3 days ago. She told me that she was a little concerned about the ultrasound results and referred us up to a specialist at the Center for Prenatal Diagnosis. The name kind of scares me. Today was our first appointment, and unfortunately not our last…

…We know nothing at this point and that’s the hardest part. Sometimes I just start crying for no real reason other than sadness. I was playing with Clark the other day and started crying because I realized that I may never get to know our daughter like this. Will I get to know her personality? Will I get to see her first birthday? Will I get to dress her and show her off? Or will I never even see her breathe?

July 20, 2007

A lot has happened the past few days, but not with our baby…with us. We decided that we don’t want to be sad right now. We have no idea what our future results will tell, but for now we don’t want to worry or cry or stress about what we don’t know. We want to be happy. We ARE happy. I think it’s kind of hard for other people to understand this. We aren’t in denial; we just don’t want to waste a lot of energy for nothing. So we wait. And we pray always for our baby. We are praying for miracles and for healing. I KNOW God can do both. Whether He will is up to Him, but I have faith in His ability and His everlasting love for us. I know that He will not let us walk blindly through this trial but that He is ever near to help lead us through. What happens to our little girl is up to Him, but what happens to me is up to me. I want to learn and grow and become strengthened. I want my testimony of faith and comfort to grow, and I know it will.

August 10, 2007

We have had a lot of blessings and miracles throughout this pregnancy, and now we get to deal with the pain and heartache. We found out today that our baby has a rare genetic disorder called “triploidy”, which basically isn’t compatible with life…

…I feel so sad. Not mad, not upset at anyone or anything, just sad that I don’t know how much longer we’ll get to have her and love her.

August 13, 2007

We have decided to name her Anna Lynn so we can refer to her by her name and make her feel even more real to us. Anna is the most beautiful name to me, which seems so fitting for such a beautiful baby.

It’s hard to put my feelings onto paper. I love my little Anna so much. I love how active she’s been lately as if she knows something is up and is trying to comfort me by showing me she’s still here, but I am so sad because I know I won’t be taking her home with me. Part of me wants to just “get it over with” and not have to worry anymore, but then reality hits and realize that I want as much time with Anna that I can possibly get and so I pray that I can keep her as long as possible.

August 23, 2007

In all this, I feel very comforted. I truly feel like this is all part of a much greater plan. I know that Heavenly Father loves me and knows what He is doing. I know that He isn’t giving me this trial because he’s punishing us – but because he loves us so dearly. I am grateful to be chosen to give a body to such a perfect and sweet child. I know that we will get to see Anna as a perfect being someday, how exciting! I know that this is only going to get harder for us, but I also know that when all is said and done we will be stronger because of it. I feel at peace knowing how much I am loved. I am grateful to my Heavenly Father for allowing me to feel comforted and for letting me know how special I am to Him. I also know that Anna is very special to Him also and I am so lucky and blessed to get to call her my daughter.

September 19, 2007

Happy 235 days, Anna! I have been able to hold you every second of every day for 235 day – Lucky me!! I love you, Anna, and am already missing what it would be like to raise you and see you grow up. Dad told me today that he sometimes gets really sad. Especially when he sees other little girls and knows that he won’t get to see you like that. I get sad, too. Today I am sad. I wish you were going to stay with us, but I guess there are other things you need to do. But please don’t leave me, yet. I am not ready to say “goodbye”.

October 4, 2007

I haven’t been feeling Anna in a while, but I don’t know if that’s the reason I suddenly feel like something isn’t “quite right”. I have no idea if she is still with us or not, but if I had to guess, I would say she is gone. I hope not, but that’s what my gut feeling says. I am honestly dreading our next appointment.

October 8, 2007

Dear Anna,

I have been thinking about you all day long. I am not sure if you are still with us or not, but I wanted to let you know how much I love you. You have been so strong and such a fighter, but I know that there will be a time when it is just too hard for you to fight anymore. I want you to know that I love you so much and want you to be here, but I will be okay if you have to leave us. I will be so sad and I will cry a lot, but it is because I love you so much. When you have to go, I promise not to be upset. Sometimes when people lose a child, they become bitter or upset with God and think “Why me?” or think that life is so unfair. But I have never felt any of those things. I have gained a testimony of the love our Father in Heaven has for each of us, and I know He is not punishing me. I am not better than anyone else and to think that my life should be free from trials is so selfish. And I feel that the only unfair part of this whole situation is that you get to come to earth, gain a body, be free from pain and sorrow, and get to return to our Father so much sooner than the rest of us. I actually think you’re a pretty lucky girl.

My sweet Anna. How I will miss watching you grow. I am sad to have had to put away all the baby clothes I bought in anticipation of your arrival and the double stroller and the car seat and everything else. But I will never forget you. Although the pain will lessen in time, your memory will always be with me. You are my sweet daughter and I can’t wait to meet you someday soon.

Love, Mom